Let’s Talk To Our Young Men About Total Submission From Women

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If you are looking for total submission from another human being like yourself; please, simply go into a toy store and buy yourself a life-size doll to marry instead of a woman. You will save yourself and the unfortunate woman a lot of headaches.

It is just not possible. Only God deserves total submission from us. Women who have promised this have failed over the years and will continue to do so because we are made as a person, an individual, and with a brain to use.

Telling another person to dance to your tunes, whims, and whatever is a sign of weakness. A strong man with a backbone will not be clamoring for submission or respect. Respect comes naturally.

I feel that many people are still living in cuckoo land where women are subhumans to be dictated to and be told what to think and how to behave. A misguided idea that this is how a man will control his home. I think not!

I know your mother, father, and society may have told you repeatedly that you must take control of your home. Please, taking control of your home is not to turn your partner into a puppet that can’t make any move without your say-so. Relax!

Marriage should be joyful, not for your wife to dread your presence. Not for her to breathe a sigh of relief anytime you step out of the house. Some women are emotional wrecks because they desperately want to please their husbands. Nothing wrong with wanting to please your husband if the man is not one of those men who use fear to keep their women in line.

It is a wonder that women who chose to be their own person have successful marriages and relationships while those who claim they have no problem being herded around like sheep are struggling.

Another thing to be aware of is if you can control her, so will her family, friends, co-workers, etc. A woman who doesn’t know her own mind is a liability in the long run. People can play any mind games they like with her. That is the sort of person you need beside you in your hour of need? Just because you can’t stand being challenged.

I think this is because some women due to whatever is going on in their heads promise what they can’t deliver. They don’t reckon with their own psychological need to be themselves. To like what they like and dislike what they dislike. They accept being dictated to for long with bitterness, then when it gets too much they burst. Meanwhile, their mental health is already damaged, some beyond repair.

Noticed a lot of domestic violence lately involving women attacking their men, some fatally?

Strong women make it clear from the onset that they will prefer to be their own person. Any man who is capable enough can stay with them. They build together and conquer together. They make a formidable team.

While in the other camp energy is being spent on power. Make sure the world knows who is the boss. Progressive thoughts shut down because it was the woman who had that thought.

Women, well some of us, are tired of all these. Even those promising total submissions will change soon enough. It is not done out of deceit but as a natural process of life. We are all entitled to our own opinion, needs, choices, and ways. Marriage shouldn’t block that.

Well, what some people call marriages is for the husband to decide and for the wife to go along with it, with no objections. What should be a discussion is just a briefing. This is what we have been told is the template for perfect marriages.

Asking one person to shut down their brain so yours can work for both is ridiculous. Not healthy!

Many men have lost the love of great women just because these strong women refused to tow the line the men created. Strong women are builders and not users. They love making their own way and achieving a lot. The love of such women is not easily won, if you do win it, be proud of it and let them be themselves. Your life will be peaceful.

So young men, toughen and strengthen your backbone and treat women with respect. They are your partner. Listen to them. Cherish them. Realize that your progress is in each other’s hands, so if you push her down you are pushing your progress down too.

These are my thoughts. They won’t come as a surprise to many because I am unashamedly a feminist. But, more importantly, I see many young women, especially in the African community, showing little or no interest in marriage. who can blame them?

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Stay with me,

Ruka

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Ruka

About Post Author

Ruka

My name is Ruka. Born and bred in Nigeria. Now living in Ireland. I am a Woman, Feminist, Wife, Mother, Muslim, Black, and African. I am an Entrepreneur who also works in Finance Administration. I am a Fibromyalgia & Chronic Pain Warrior. I love writing and hope to make a name for myself doing it.

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