HOW TO SIMPLIFY YOUR LIFE

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Halloo,

Are you looking for ways to simplify your life? Your answer is yes? Thank you. Me too. I am always on the lookout for ways to make my life uncomplicated too. I think it’s important for my mental health.

To my untrained eyes, the main problem is that we tend to hold on to the weight of the past, especially to things that no longer serve us, contribute to our growth, or give us happiness. Letting things like these go maybe the first step if not the best thing to do that will release us from unnecessary stress.

We hold on due to sentiment, belief, family ties, past actions, or various other reasons. Which is okay, we are all human. But once you decide to go on this journey to uncomplicated your life, it’s better done with a lighter emotional load.

Another thing I find helpful is to confront the many mistakes I have made in my past, all the things I am guilty of, ashamed of, afraid of, everything I can remember, I acknowledged them and accept my faults in them. This made me realise my shortcomings.

I started teaching myself how to behave better. Of course, I am still far from perfect, but I get great relief from knowing when and how to avoid hurting another person with my behaviour.

Naturally, I am a worrier. I just have to have something to worry about. I spent years trying to stop this but got nowhere until I read somewhere that the way forward is not to stop worrying, but to re-focus your thoughts on something you can change.

I think I am making progress now. I try to worry about things I can control, when I feel my mind drifting I try to give it problems that I can take action on. It is difficult I admit. But it is helpful.

Funny, I can’t remember most of what was said to me yesterday, but can remember clearly conversations of 20 years ago. Not so funny when you are holding a grudge or grievances for that long, especially the stress on your mental health.

I am very guilty of holding on to grudges and grievances for long, letting go is not my strong point at all. But I want to uncomplicated my life. That can’t be done when you are carrying so much anger about.

You and I have to take steps to let it go and move forward with our lives. Confront the person if that will help you move on. Just get closure in your own way.

I learned early on in my journey not to let what other people think control my life. It is not arrogance. I just see that many people project their insecurities onto you knowingly or unknowingly. Some people do this without malice they really think they are doing the right thing.

The problem is- our stories are different. What we want from life are not the same, what we have experienced, seen, or do are a world apart. So my values and beliefs are entirely mine. I don’t expect everyone to buy into my them, as I don’t buy into everybody’s values.

It is not possible to be everybody’s cup of tea. Accept that fact. Life becomes difficult for you if you want everyone to like you. Many people will not get you. You will be too much for some people. Some will see you as an attention-seeker, drama queen, or simply dislike you for no known reason. Move on to where you are understood.

People who don’t know your story or Know where you are coming from want to have an opinion on how you run your life, and you want to have sleepless nights over it? Not worth it. That is why you have to work on trusting yourself. Your life, you live it.

There are so many many ways to make life easier and joyful. I am always on the lookout, trust me to write about it as I discover them. Use them if you find them useful too.

Please share your ways of staying stress-free in the comment section below, I am always eager to learn new things. Thanks for reading, I truly appreciate it.

Stay with me,

Ruka

About Post Author

Ruka

My name is Ruka. Born and bred in Nigeria. Now living in Ireland. I am a Woman, Feminist, Wife, Mother, Muslim, Black, and African. I am an Entrepreneur who also works in Finance Administration. I am a Fibromyalgia & Chronic Pain Warrior. I love writing and hope to make a name for myself doing it.

rukaganiyu5@gmail.com

https://www.rukasplace.com

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