How To Manage Insecurities

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Halloo,

Insecurity isn’t lack of confidence, at least that is what the experts say. I completely agree with them. Being a confident person is not that you don’t have any insecurities, of course we all do, the difference is how we manage it.

I know from experience that the more I grow through learning, the more assured I am. I don’t know about other people’s chosen ways to manage their insecurities, but it will be great if you can share yours with me in the comment section below. I am always eager to learn new things.

I love writing. When I decided to share my writing with the public I struggled with many insecurities, one of them was what to say. What will someone like me have to write that people will want to read?

I believed then that I don’t have enough knowledge in any field to talk to people about. I could write about my life, I don’t need any special knowledge for that. But! My life is quite boring; I am an introvert. I just go to work and go back home. Not much going on for anybody to want to read about frequently.

I started reading about blogging and writing. The knowledge I got from this gave me the boost to start writing about my love for Homemade Skincare Products. I started writing and researching into more ways to be relevant by giving quality information. I discovered a lot that helped me personally and also helped my writing.

My confidence grew and continue to grow as I discovered a new me that I never knew existed. I enjoyed when people come to me looking for information and the ease at which I can do this. I felt needed. This made me feel relevant and happy.

I started a small business on the back of this. Fulfilling a lifelong dream of owning a business. I am hardly going to retire to the south of France on this business but words alone cannot describe what this small business has done for me and my mental-health.

My writing has evolved over the years. I now write about all aspects of my life, things I feel strongly about. I write about Natural Skincare, Entrepreneurship, Self-care, Mental-health, Invisible-Illness, Fibromyalgia, Chronic Pain, Feminism, Ireland, Yoruba, Nigerians and Africans, and so on.

I am a straightforward person, at least that is what I think. I tell people straightaway what I know and what I would do if I were in their shoes. I don’t use scaremongering to sell my products or share my opinions. These are some of my values. I think managing my insecurity gave me power to share my values without any fears. I think those clients of mine who stood by me for the 6 odd years I have been in business do so because they believe in what I stand for.

Without any intention to preach or patronise anybody, my message is simple- LET YOUR INSECURITY WORK FOR YOU!

Acknowledge it. Then start taking steps to tackle it by managing it. Many of our insecurities can be used as ladders to a more successful life. And if you tried and it didn’t work, you can sleep easy knowing you tried.

The way I wrote about this may give the impression that it is simple, please it is not. We all know that things like these are easier said than done. But if you are interested and want to give it a go, start small. Don’t rush.

For change to be sustainable it has to be gradual, in fact very tiny. I find that when I rush in, I get tired or overwhelmed and eventually abandon the activity. You don’t want that to happen, do you?

Take my reading for example to give you an idea of what I am talking about. I have huge problem with punctuation, I still do. I am very insecure about it. My way of managing is to read books on punctuation and practice. To change gradually- I will make it a point of duty to read a paragraph a day, not a page, not a chapter, just a paragraph.

I am sure you agree with me that is very small indeed. It will motivate you to pick the book though, and you will find that when you start reading you won’t stop at a paragraph. And any day that you can’t read at all, don’t beat yourself up about it.

Managing my insecurities help with my mental health and my ability to trust myself more and believe in myself. I hope same apply to you.

I hope that you find this useful.

Stay with me,

Ruka

About Post Author

Ruka

My name is Ruka. Born and bred in Nigeria. Now living in Ireland. I am a Woman, Feminist, Wife, Mother, Muslim, Black, and African. I am an Entrepreneur who also works in Finance Administration. I am a Fibromyalgia & Chronic Pain Warrior. I love writing and hope to make a name for myself doing it.

rukaganiyu5@gmail.com

https://www.rukasplace.com

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