13 Types Of People To Beware Of.

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Halloo,

The opinions you are about to read here are entirely mine. Bear in mind that I am an introvert, I don’t keep lots of friends. I enjoy my own company and quite like solitude. So my opinion may not be to your taste, especially if you love having a lot of people around you.

All the same, enjoy reading.

Staying and associating with people who bring out the worst in you is not healthy. I know many people who keep hanging around people like these just because they don’t want to be alone. It is not healthy.

I won’t pretend to understand the fear of loneliness. But I do know that our mental health is fragile. Don’t mess around with your sanity by staying with people who are emotionally draining you.

In your quest for interaction please beware of the following people:

1—— PEOPLE WHO TAKE, TAKE, AND TAKE

There are people who just take, take, and take. They hardly offer anything in return. They care about nobody but themselves. This kind of people will suck the life out of you. Expecting them to offer you any form of support or assistance is like trying to squeeze water out of a stone. Stay clear of such people. Once their needs are met they don’t care about you or what is going on in your life.

2—- LAZY PEOPLE

Lazy people are another set of people you need to relate with from a distant, especially if you have a goal you are working towards. They create distractions and make you feel you are a bad person just because you don’t drop your work to fool around with them. Many think that people like this are funny, or entertaining when in reality they are distracting you from your goals.

3—- PEOPLE WHO DON’T RESPECT CONFIDENTIALITY

If you are lucky enough to discover that a so-called friend repeated all the shared confidence between you to other people, that is your cue to run and never look back. Many people make the mistake of becoming friends again with people like this when they come crawling and apologize. I think it is a huge mistake. Forgive the person but cut the person loose. Failure to do so might cause you some serious grief in future. This people won’t hesitate to harm you to score points.

4— PEOPLE WHOSE SOLE PURPOSE IN LIFE IS TO PARTY

We all have to let our hair down once in a while and meet up with people to engage and socialize. Some set of people have turned socializing to work. They spent their days planning or attending parties, functions, and events like these. People like these should be avoided. When your life revolves around buying expensive clothes, shoes, jewellery, make-up, etc. I wonder what you are trying to proof. Some go into debt to maintain this lifestyle because their income is not enough to justify this way of living. Avoid them. Love them from a distance. They are not worth it if they are not a positive influence.

5— THE JUDGEMENTAL PEOPLE

We all know someone who spends all the time with you complaining. This is another set of people to avoid. They complain about everything. They question your choices. The way you do things are never good enough for them, they have a better way of doing it. It is irritating and frustrating. These people are bad for your mental health. They have the uncanny ability to make you feel inferior. Your home, car, children, husband, faith, opinions, in short everything you do is always under scrutiny. I don’t know how anybody can stand to be friendly with people like this. The sad thing is they always think they are honest, or keeping it real. They are just Negative.

6— PEOPLE PERMANENTLY GLUED TO THEIR PHONES

The phone is another one. There are people who are forever on their phones. Meeting up with them means you are prepared to have conversation with them while they text on their phones. Some will insist they can hear you, that you should keep talking. I call this – DISRESPECT– I avoid people like this because they obviously have no respect for me or my relationship with them. Most of these people never call you anyway, so the people on the phone are way more important. Help them narrow their choices.

7—- PEOPLE WHO DON’T VALUE YOUR TIME

Sometimes things happen, we make appointments and we are unable to make it. The decent thing is to call and let the other person realize you can’t make it and give an explanation or show regret. There are a set of people who don’t think this is necessary. You just don’t hear anything from them. The next time you meet they just keep talking as if nothing happened. If you know someone who does this often, you are accepting bad behaviour. Call this person to order. Refusal to see sense is saying a lot about the value they place on your time.

8– THE PRESENT GHOSTS

We all know some people who are very good at disappearing in your hours of need only to reappear when the storm is over. Believe me, they always have excuses for not being there for you. We know them. But there are some people who hang around but offer you no support whatsoever. BEWARE! Many people surround themselves with people like this. They are with lots of people yet they are lonely. Avoid people like this at all cost. Real supportive people might not come near you when they see you surrounded by a lot of people, not knowing that these are rubbish people. Go for quality, not quantity.

9— PEOPLE WHO DISMISS YOUR EMOTIONS

Some people find it easy to share their problems with others. I am not one of them, I don’t share easily. If you share your troubles with someone and your worries are dismissed by the person, please avoid people like this. Many people, especially Africans, use the ready-made answer to everything – pray. I know that many people may not know what to say and give the standard answer -Prayer-, but some people come on so strong about the prayer thing that you become traumatized and powerless. Avoid people who can’t acknowledge your emotions in a kind way. They are dangerous to your health. People around you should make you feel positive about yourself.

10— PEOPLE WHO BACKBITES

Friends sometimes talk about other people, healthy. But if you know someone whose only topic of conversation is talking and slagging other people. I beg you to check out. Healthy conversations should include progressive things and shouldn’t be about judging and putting others down. My rule here is simple- If you are very busy living your own life, you have little time noticing what others are doing. Most of the times people like this talk badly about you behind your back too. Be careful.

11— MANIPULATIVE PEOPLE

Manipulative people should be avoided. Some people are a master at this that you may not realize in time that you are under their thumbs. As soon as you realized this please run. If not you will forever be doing things to please them and it will never be enough. They won’t acknowledge your efforts nor reciprocate them. You will be so dependent on their approval and backhanded compliments.

12— THE LIARS

Some people are perpetual liars. Beware, they can be very nice people, it’s just their words are to be taken with a pinch of salt. Dealing with people like these is very delicate. They can land you in a whole lot of trouble with their lies.

13— The DRAMA QUEENS

Dramas follow some people everywhere. It is from one saga to another. Their choices in life reflect this. Association with people like this makes it impossible for you to avoid drama. You will be dragged into it occasionally whether you like it or not. Please do be careful many people have really heartbreaking stories to tell because of their alliance with people like this.

These are the 13 types that came to mind. I am sure you have more. Why not share with us or any other contributions, objections, opinions, and observations with us in the comment section below. Thanks

For the sake of peace, spend time with those who bring you joy and make you feel good about yourself.

Stay with me,

Ruka

About Post Author

Ruka

My name is Ruka. Born and bred in Nigeria. Now living in Ireland. I am a Woman, Feminist, Wife, Mother, Muslim, Black, and African. I am an Entrepreneur who also works in Finance Administration. I am a Fibromyalgia & Chronic Pain Warrior. I love writing and hope to make a name for myself doing it.

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https://www.rukasplace.com

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