Fashion is not my strong point

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Halloo,

Please don’t laugh. This is me on my way to work a few days back.

This is what I called ‘My Afrish Dressing’ A combination of African- Skirt with an English Suit Jacket. Most fashionable people won’t be caught dead in this ensemble, but I DON’T CARE! I LOVE IT!! END OF STORY!!!

Fashion and trends are just not my things. I don’t care or get excited about fashion and fashionable things.

This won’t come as a surprise to those who know me, those who have met me, or those who see me going by sometimes. I really don’t do fashion.

I am a comfort dresser. It is important for me to be comfortable, so my choice of dressing always reflect this. I am a simple girl with simple taste.

I have nothing against fashion or fashionable people, in fact, I admire them greatly because of their ability to take the time to choose and prep themselves before stepping out of their homes is really amazing. I used to wish I can do that.

I remembered when I was younger, due to peer pressure, I tried to care and make some efforts, but it was futile. I am one of those girls who take their bath, rub body cream, wears whichever clothes come to me first, and I am ready to go.

Don’t get me wrong, I don’t dress shabbily. No-No. I always appear neat and well presented. I just love simple dressing that I can put together in minutes. I hate spending time looking for what to wear, thinking if colours match, if the style suits, all those are just not me.

It was one of the things that really affected my confidence, I thought I looked like a kid because of the way I used to dress, I felt that people don’t respect or take me seriously because of it. I thought by dressing trendy and applying make-ups will make me looked mature and respected.

I went through a phase where I bought lots of trendy clothes, shoes, and make-ups. I watched lots of Youtube videos on how to apply make-up, something I wasn’t bothered with in my teens and early 20s. I even bought Trinny and Susannah book on how to dress for your shape.

I wasted a lot of money buying clothes that really doesn’t suit my personality.

But the moment I said ENOUGH! Everything changed.

I accepted myself as not a fashion-forward person, I am not trendy, I am not stylish. I am just me, a person who feels more comfortable wearing baggy shirts than some form-fitting blouse.

I am not crazy about any designer. I see something I like I buy. I am less concern whether it is out of fashion or it is for grannies. Comfortability mixed with reasonabilty is my motto.

I am hardly going to shell a couple of hundred euros to buy African attire that will be of little use to me.

I love African attires, but detest Aso-Ebi syndrome, for many reasons. A post is coming on this topic.

So instead of hiding my dressing under some heavy coats and jackets as before, I proudly walk with my ensembles. I own it. I stop worrying about whether people around will think I can’t afford expensive clothes or trendy clothes.

I just wear whatever I want to wear and with confidence.

Guess what? I am enjoying the new me. There is nothing more liberating than not giving a damn about what anyone thinks but to just do what you are comfortable with.

I came to realize that when you wear what makes you comfortable, you become YOU, and nothing makes people shine brighter than being THEMSELVES!

This is one of the things I love about being in my 40s. I wasn’t this confident in my 30s. I did a lot of things to impress some people, the shame of it is most of these people remained unimpressed. It was always never enough.

My 20s was worse, I chased friends, I was unsure of who I am and tried so hard to be a lot of things and ended up confusing myself.

Now, I am a 45-year-old lady who is confidently being herself and really don’t care who is judging me. I owe nobody any explanations. I simply do me. I dress as I please. I buy what I like. I obey no fashion rules unless it fits with my personality.

I simply embrace who I am. Faults and all!

Stay with me.

Ruka

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Ruka

My name is Ruka. Born and bred in Nigeria. Now living in Ireland. I am a Woman, Feminist, Wife, Mother, Muslim, Black, and African. I am an Entrepreneur who also works in Finance Administration. I am a Fibromyalgia & Chronic Pain Warrior. I love writing and hope to make a name for myself doing it.

rukaganiyu5@gmail.com

https://www.rukasplace.com

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