Who is perfect?

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Halloo,

Who is perfect? Definitely not me! You?

I am assuming nobody is perfect either!

The pressure for us to be perfect is enormous. Many of the forces putting this pressure on us are not even aware they are doing so.

We praised someone doing well, which is great, especially when they have overcome adversity.

Little did we realize that the enormous efforts and strong-will needed to get up after being knocked down are not what many people can handle. There are lots of people who are knocked down, still struggling to get up, and watching others being praised is putting more pressure on them.

Yes, it is great to celebrate and encourage the people who have survived. But it will be encouraging too to cheer those still struggling because each day is a blessing and worth celebrating. It contributes to healing.

One of my main reasons for writing about my struggle with Fibromyalgia and Chronic Pain is this. I want to use my little voice to bring the struggles to the fore.

I want those struggling, especially with invisible illnesses, to know that there are others like them out there. They are not alone in their suffering.

I know how easy it is to assume that someone is having a better time or a better life than you. This is even more common with people dealing with invisible illnesses.

Many people assume that those with Invisible Illnesses have everything rosy and perfect because their illness is not visible. And most of the people with invisible illnesses are great at hiding their pains.

It is also amazing what clothes, makeups, and a smile can cover.

Sometimes when we look at a picture of someone smiling we forget that it took only a few seconds to take that picture, how is the rest of that person’s day, never mind life, going?

I constantly talk about my rough patches with Chronic Pain so that it will be a reminder to those who matter that not all that glitters is gold. That before they beat themselves up for not doing enough, or compare their lives to others, they need to realize that most people are struggling just like them.

So when someone reaches out to you, please help, if you can’t please make sure they understand that you are not rejecting them, just not possible for you to help at the moment.

I speak from experience when I say people are quick to say call me if you need anything or why didn’t you call me? The reality is when you do call, you meet with nothing. Which is frustrating! Then you start wishing you never made the call in the first place.

We all lead a busy life and I am yet to meet anybody who doesn’t have one problem or another. But we create time for those we care for. We free up time.

I can’t remember when last I have free time to spare, I never do. I am always doing something. But I will drop whatever I am doing to make someone know they are not alone.

Most people make time to go to funerals, visit hospitals, or visit the homes of the bereaved to pay respect but won’t find the time to check up on someone, alive, struggling especially when it is an invisible illness.

Someone said to me once ‘You can call me anytime you need help’ before I can respond she added ‘Any time but within reason of course’

I am never gonna call that person in my hour of need because I can see the way that is going to play out already. I am not going to put myself through that stress.

Support people, be kind, be physically, mentally, and emotionally there for people you call your friends and family. Don’t let your support be on your term, let it be what is needed by the person. And the only way to find that out is by talking with the person concern.

Perfection is all in our minds! My fellow warriors, remember we are all struggling, some more than others. We all have different coping strengths. Go at your own pace.

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Stay with me,

Ruka

Stay with me,

Ruka

About Post Author

Ruka

My name is Ruka. Born and bred in Nigeria. Now living in Ireland. I am a Woman, Feminist, Wife, Mother, Muslim, Black, and African. I am an Entrepreneur who also works in Finance Administration. I am a Fibromyalgia & Chronic Pain Warrior. I love writing and hope to make a name for myself doing it.

rukaganiyu5@gmail.com

https://www.rukasplace.com

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