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Halloo,
Once upon a time, I ran into ‘The Breast Clinic’ in Mater Private Hospital in Dublin.
I was out of my head in pain. I was not thinking straight. I knew they don’t attend to anybody without a referral letter from their GP. Or without an appointment.
I went in anyway because I had spent days in crippling pain. For days my chest felt like it was being stabbed repeatedly by a hot metal knife. I was tired, fed-up, and I just couldn’t fight silently anymore.
Maybe, I thought if they saw how distressed I was they might do something for me. I am not sure what I was thinking. I went in anyway, crying.
I am not naturally a tearful person, not because I am strong. It’s just that it simply takes a lot to bring my tears out.
I went in into that hospital bawling my heart out. I begged, and explained my situation with Chronic Pain to the nurses.
They were sympathetic and do everything in their power to calm me down. I was advised to go back to my GP.
I told them that my GP has sent me to see different Medical Consultants in different health units. The result is always the same- They can’t find anything.
Yet this intense pain wants to ruin my life. But, I am not going to let it.
To really understand this you will have to have lived with Chronic Pain for a long period or lived with someone who has.
It is no picnic, I can tell you that much.
So please be extra kind to those in your life going through some major health issues.
Take an active role in helping them. Don’t just stay on social media saying ‘Sorry or I will be praying for you’. Call them, if distance do not permit you to visit.
Take time out to seek them out. Don’t stay on your phone, texting and expect them to text their problems back to you.
They are probably feeling they are a burden. Do your best to allay this feeling.
Most of us with health issues build walls around us as a protective measure against being considered a liability. So please make it your job to knock the walls down and assure us that you care.
Imagine the mental stress I was under when I went into that hospital. Just a little thing would have tipped me over.
It is crazy, I wasn’t thinking rationally. But when you are stressed and really in serious distress acting rationally is not something that will be very important to you. That is when you need reliable people around you.
I won’t lie to you that it’s easy to be a friend to someone like me. It is not. My mood swing is atrocious. I can be laughing and relaxed one minute and changed to a cranky person the next minute.
Be patient and be kind to us. Most of us can’t help it.
Would you like to know why I write openly about my struggle with Chronic Pain? Read it here.
Stay with me,
Ruka
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